Reassign Time

What are you going to do today to make yourself better? 

I stole the weekend. I moved my clients around, I adjusted my schedule, I threw down some money and ultimately actually gave my weekend away–to myself. I spent Saturday and Sunday at a writer’s retreat. I made the decision, followed the necessary steps to make it happen, cleared my schedule and spent an incredible weekend surrounded by smart, talented and interesting women.

There is always room for improvement within ourselves. There will always be a desire to do more and be more and learn more. The question is HOW do we do this? And how do we do this with out feeling guilty. It’s an internal choice we have to make, most of deep down we can spare a few minutes here an there, right?

I want you to decide to take back 15 minutes a day. No, no, no. Not all at once, spread it out.

5 minutes at a time. At home, you may have kids buzzing around, a spouse that isn’t helping to pack lunches or clean the kitchen, you may feel like 5 minutes just won’t happen. Make it happen. Spend five more minutes in the shower and meditate, take your coffee for a walk around the block. Instead of instantly opening emails, open a word document or grab a notebook. 5 minutes.

You can apply this at work too. Spend a few minutes stretching at your desk. This is will do wonders for your neck, back and stress levels–I promise. Once you start finding a few minutes here and there, you can start expanding that time. Figure out what you want to do with these new found moments. 

Here’s a secret: you’re not actually stealing them, you’re reassigning them to yourself. And if you start to feel guilty about this, don’t. Because you are bettering yourself. You are committing to yourself. You are making yourself in every single aspect of your life: home, parent, partner, employee. A happier you means everyone gets to reap the benefits.

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Give this a try and let me know how it goes! Or email me and ask for some tips for your particular situation–I want to help!



Shoulding–We All Do It

Okay. I know is just wrote a post about slowing down, taking in each moment and enjoying where I am while I’m living it. But after much thought and meditating on it I think I’ve found the source of why I have a hard time staying where I am and being able to enjoy that particular moment. GUILT. defines guilt:




the fact or state of having committed an offense, crime, violation, or wrong, especially against moral or penal law; culpability: He admitted his guilt.


a feeling of responsibility or remorse for some offense, crime, wrong, etc., whether real or imagined.  


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An unfortunate side effect that results from being overly exposed to morality.

I believe that my guilt stems from a syndrome that my friend has named I-should-be-doing-something-more-productive-than-this syndrome. Don’t get me wrong, I’m a pretty lazy person. I love to and often do sit around, drink coffee and read or watch a movie: but in the back of my mind I’m thinking: I should clean my room, I should have done a harder workout, I should write a blog post, I should go for another run, I should be reading about Buddhism instead of this novel, I should I should I should


I should all over myself every damn day. I propose that we all stop shoulding on ourselves. Or at least I’m going to try and stop, you can do what you want, maybe you don’t have this problem and you can tell me your secret. Shoulding is messy, it’s pointless and it doesn’t help anyone with anything. And who’s to say that what I am doing isn’t what I should be doing?

I tend to think of relaxation, non-educational books, general hanging out as a crime of some sort. It somehow, in my 26 years of living, has been defined and ingrained in me as something I think is morally wrong. That itself is so wrong—learning to relax is going to be key in enjoying the next two months of travel.

I’m buckling up, slowing down and telling guilt to shut the hell up and go away. Got any good book suggestions?